January 26, 2024

Dreams Or Die: Why Are You Settling?

<a href="https://bigdreamtheory.com/author/bigdreamtheorykcd/" target="_self">Bobby L. Mitchell</a>

Bobby L. Mitchell

Founder & Dreamer

Every new year provides us with a moment to reflect. As I look over this past year and prepare for what’s to come, a lingering thought remains constant in my mind: we only have one life.

Life isn’t some video game. There’s no pressing the reset button and starting over.

Our life is more like a movie written, directed, produced, and starring us. However, there are no sequels, and unlike Arnold Schwarzenegger, we won’t be coming back. Once the credits start to roll, that’s all, folks! There is no way around it, and the older I get, the more I realize this to be true.

The Consequences of Settling for Mediocrity

So why do so many of us continue to live an average life if this is the case? Why aren’t we fighting tooth and nail every day to make our dreams a reality? Somewhere along the line, we’ve convinced ourselves to be content with accomplishing the bare minimum. This is something that bothers me the most about our generation: we’ve settled.

We settled for a meaningless and unfulfilling existence, working day in and day out in cubicles across corporate America. In reality, we’ve traded in our dreams for “great” pay, “good” benefits, an in-house barista, and two weeks’ vacation.

The Role of Society and Peers in Shaping Our Life Choices

Similarly, our inner circle consists of people who’ve also made the same trade. A sad reality is the majority of society falls into this system. Instead of supporting the dreamers and innovators in our community, we encourage people to remain underachievers and be satisfied with being the norm. If you don’t believe me, look at your closest friends—a lackadaisical clique composed of a few friends from high school, college, and or former co-workers.

More often than not, our comrades wish to do nothing more than participate in another happy hour at a local dive bar, drink and complain about how much they hate their jobs, ramble about everything wrong in their personal lives, debate fantasy football stats, and share details about the latest Netflix shows they are currently binging. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against catching up with friends every so often over lunch or coffee. However, at some point, we have to realize that there has to be more to life than this.

We are much more than our jobs, our families, and our hobbies. What happened to our dreams, our goals, and the plans we had for our lives? As a culture, we have become much more comfortable with remaining average. We have fallen into the trap of doing just enough to get by and staying within the confines of the status quo.

So many of us fail to challenge ourselves to reach our highest potential. Instead, we sit on the sidelines, envious of others on Instagram and YouTube accomplishing the same things we know deep down we are capable of doing.

“There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”

Nelson Mandela

Breaking Free from the Cycle of Monotony

Decades are wasted, stuck in a repetitive cycle of work, happy hours, and get-togethers with nothing to show for our lives. If we are honest with ourselves, we have accomplished very little besides holding down a job while attempting to climb the corporate ladder and possibly get that car or the house we’ve always wanted.

But all the trinkets in the world can’t replace the emptiness from living with the fact that we never followed our dreams.

Secretly, we are searching for more, yet we are too afraid to see what else is out there, deep down knowing that this void will not be filled by buying new cars and homes. Myself included.

The clock is ticking. The harsh reality is we are running out of time for our dreams.

We are only allotted so many days on God’s green earth to pursue the life we want to live. Every day we wake up is another opportunity to change our lives. We can’t afford to spend the rest of our years playing it safe.

Let’s be real for a moment. Are we that afraid to take risks? Are we so insecure that we won’t even attempt to bet on ourselves because of what our family, friends, or the people on the internet may say about us?

In the words of motivational speaker Les Brown, “The graveyard is the richest place on earth because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled.” It’s up to us to achieve our biggest dreams and not go to our deathbeds wondering what if?

Choosing Your Path: The Rat Race or Your Dreams?

No longer can we settle for being just another cog in the machine, another mindless soul going through the motions of everyday life. Like Neo, it’s time for us to escape the matrix and inspire others to do the same.

The world is filled with endless possibilities, and truthfully, we’ve been given a dream and the power to make it a reality.

Unfortunately, we’ve been brainwashed into thinking that working a 9-5 is the only way to succeed. Our lives have been mapped out and predetermined by society, our parents, and the media, but now is the time for the dreamer inside of you to rise and choose to create your own path. You and I don’t know how much time we have left on Planet Earth.

So the question remains: how will you spend it?

Will you stay trapped in the rat race like everybody else for the next 40-some-odd years? Or will you take a chance on yourself and chase your dreams? If we’re going to die either way, I’d rather die chasing mine.

Just saying.

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1 Comment

  1. Delinquent

    Taking a chance, baby!
    Let’s go!


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